The first thing I did after hiring a business coach was to cancel my business coach. It took me about ten minutes to ask myself what the heck I was doing and begin the process of what can only be described as “freaking out.” This process lasted overnight and the next morning I emailed her to back out of our payment plan and first meeting.
Fortunately my coach had seen this happen on other occasions with other clients and calmly wrote back, “I would love for you to just come and talk to me and have our first meeting and we can go from there.” Just as fortunately, I agreed.
It all started at a local networking meeting that actually took place in the same restaurant complex where my husband and I married and had our reception, a place that always makes me happy even if I’m there for other functions. This particular event was for creative types like writers, photographers, film makers, and was much more appealing to me than some other networking events that seem more like professional speed dating meetups ups instead of making actual contacts for business partners or clients. I had just restructured my dog business, Love, Laugh, Woof, and had a rough idea of where it was headed and was excited to meet other business owners and maybe some dog owners.
The speakers at the meeting were fantastic and I was feeling very inspired and ready to rock my business when Eve Keith of Friendship Haven in Dekalb, Illinois introduced herself to me and asked what my business was. “I’m a dog blogger and I help people create a holistic lifestyle for their pets,” I answered. We talked for at least a half an hour and I liked her immediately, although when we scheduled a phone call for the following Monday I was a little unsure of what we were going to discuss. I knew she was a business coach and had mentioned something about “tapping” but I had absolutely no idea what that meant.
Monday rolled around and after thirty minutes on the phone I knew I desperately wanted to hire her as a business coach, but I was uncertain about the cost. It was a cost of doing business and just might be the exact thing that I needed to start making my professional dreams come true, which is how I convinced myself to sign up for her business coach services…and ten minutes later start reconsidering it and questioning my choice.
Of course our face-to-face meeting was wonderful and I decided to commit to three months of coaching on a variety of business topics. I had tons of professional experience and a sound business idea, but I was finding that it was not necessarily simple to translate experience and knowledge from the corporate world into your very own business in which you are CEO, COO, CIO, CFO, customer service, accounting, sales, marketing, content writer, shipping, receiving, receptionist and every other job that needed to be filled.
Eight months later I have a sound business plan, a mission statement, and I am putting my plan into action. Hiring a business coach was the smartest thing I ever did for my own business. What I did not count on happening is that Eve also became my life coach.
The term “Life Coach” would have made me roll my eyes and make a sarcastic joke a year ago. I have always relied on inner strength, experience, a Liberal Arts degree and my own mind to accomplish things and get where I wanted to go. Life coaches were some new-agey type person for bored and independently wealthy “housewives” on cable TV shows (a TV genre that is my favorite guilty pleasure) and not for normal female entrepreneurs in the Midwest.
Over the last year, Eve has taught me about EFT Tapping, which involves your body’s energy meridians and borrows from acupressure and acupuncture but without needles. We have worked on meditation, affirmations, and visualization. She helped me fly without fear not once but twice this year, which in and of itself is a massive success, by teaching me techniques on how to make my mind work for me instead of it running around all willy nilly like an unbroken horse or a three month old Labrador Retriever puppy. And finally we have talked about all sorts of emotional issues and fears in a therapeutic and life-changing positive way.
What is interesting is that I did not know I needed all of those things. When I met her I was a quite happy and well adjusted person who thought I just needed help with my new business. I could have easily gone on avoiding airplanes and just being a generally happy and positive person, but the work we have done together has given me a mental clarity and peace that I never knew I was lacking.
Now I think about the universe, energy, mindfulness, keeping my thoughts positive and avoiding putting negative energy into the universe. I make sure that I do not think negative thoughts or think that I cannot do something that I want to achieve because that gets my mind going down a negative path. In fact last summer when my husband and I were binge watching the TV show Lost, I fell in love with the phrase, “Don’t tell me what I cannot do,” which I take in a positive way as if saying that I don’t care if someone doesn’t think I can do it, I know that I most certainly can and that they’d better just get out of my way. In a positive way, of course.